“Who was that I saw you talking to this morning?”
“Mary, my boss, but she would be upset if I called her a boss.”
“She came to your office to talk?”
“Yes, she always does. And on the way she usually stops to chat with most everyone else.”
“Gosh. That’s nice. My boss—and he is a BOSS—rarely leaves his office. If he wants to talk to me, I get “summoned” to his office like in middle school.”
“Mary is showing up all the time—to help, not harass.”
“What happens when you really need to talk to her?”
“Usually I just wait until she comes around, but if I can’t wait, I head over to her office.”
“You don’t have to call to make an appointment?”
“No, her door is almost always open.”
Two practices of really effective leaders are that they are visible and available. They show up a lot and they respond quickly. “I’m too busy” is seldom heard. If you are too busy for the people who work with and for you, you aren’t doing your most important job which is…leading! “I’m too busy” is not a sign of importance; it’s a sign of incompetence.
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“Who’s your boss?”
“I don’t have one.”
“I thought you worked for John?”
“No, I work with John.”
“But isn’t he your boss?”
“Well, in a supervisory sense, I suppose so.”
“Doesn’t that make him your boss?”
“Working for him is never like working for a boss. It is with him, not for him. It because I want to, not because I have to.”
“So he is more like a…”
“Leader, or coach. His tone is he is here for us, not us for him. He has turned the M upside down.”
“What do you mean by that?”
“He never says me; he always says we. Turn the M upside down and Me becomes We.”
“Anything else?”
“Yeah. He never talks about what he wants; he is always focused on what we need.”
“That’s all there is to it?”
“No, but I need to go now. I’ll share more next time we meet at the water cooler.”
How do they talk about you at the water cooler? Would you like the conversation to change? Try leading instead of bossing. What’s the difference? Meet me at the water cooler next week.
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I have a friend who was—after leading a very successful event—completely demoralized by what I call polluted praise. Polluted praise is the old and deadly, “That was great, but….” Those of us afflicted with the arrogance that comes with perfectionism are particularly prone to pollute praise with “but….” I have done it many times, and some I still remember.
This is not complicated. Two simple leadership rules will help you avoid the “but….”:
#1—Always praise and critique/debrief at different times. The time for “but…” is not five minutes after the event is over—especially an event that successful by most measures. Give the team some time (probably a few days) to enjoy the success before the “but…” is raised.
#2—Actually, don’t use the “but…” at all. It is the least effective improvement tool I can think of. Telling people what they did wrong and what could be done better is not often well received and doesn’t promote any self-evaluation/thinking that leads to growth. Critique/debrief by asking questions:
Give the team a chance to figure it out for themselves. They will. And instead of dictating, you’ll be leading. Isn’t that your job?
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I love biscuits—I’ve never met one I didn’t like. Evidently a lot of other people do too because for the first time in two years McDonald’s same-store sales are up—a lot—5.7% compared to the 4th quarter last year. McD’s stock has soared too—up 26% in the last year. The critics have been silenced and CEO Steve Easterbrook has been proven correct. I expect he’ll get a big bonus—and he should.
How did it happen? “All-day breakfast!” Like Waffle House or Cracker Barrel, you can go in McD’s and get breakfast any time they are open.
Why did it work? People love biscuits and it brought in new customers. “One-third of the customers who bought breakfast in the afternoon or later” had never been in a McD’s before (WSJ, 1/25/16). Maybe they should change their name to McBiscuit House.
Was it risky? Not the way they did it. They hand-selected a few locations for trial runs of all-day breakfast. If the trial runs failed, little was lost.
Was it costly? No. The investment was minimal. Every McD’s already had all the equipment needed to make biscuits…eggs…pancakes…whatever.
Was training required? No. They were already making biscuits all morning. Plus, making biscuits is not rocket science—no colleg degree required.
All-day breakfast was a genius move. And so simple. Everything they needed—they already had. Wow.
What about your organization? Maybe the answer you are looking for is right in front of your eyes: do more of what you already do well.
It’s about 9:00am. A McD’s biscuit would sure taste good!
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The post offices were closed on Monday—I was glad. The government offices were closed on Monday—I was glad. The schools were closed on Monday—I was glad. It was really cold Monday—mid-20’s. I wasn’t particularly glad about that, but it didn’t stop me from joining hundreds of others in downtown Franklin in a walk down Main Street to honor Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. What made me most glad on Monday? The walkers were of all races and many were from my home church. To repeat the words of Correta Scott King, it wasn’t a black holiday, it was a “people’s holiday.”
The turbulent 60’s were high school and college years for me. I remember the marches. I remember the cross burnings and lynchings. I remember sit-ins, Rosa Parks and water cannons. I remember Selma, Birmingham and Medgar Evers. I remember working with black laborers who were paid only $1.25 per hour to dig sewer ditches. And, I remember Martin Luther King, Jr., one of the great leaders of the 20th century. If I were an African-American, I would probably say he was the greatest leader of the 20th century.
When we celebrate July 4th, blacks join in, but they remember they were still slaves in 1776. When we celebrate Washington’s birthday, blacks join in, but they remember that he owned slaves. To African Americans, it is Lincoln and MLK, Jr., who led the fight, first for freedom, and then for equality. These two stand alone in black history; there are no rivals to their legacy. They both led with:
Purpose
Courage
Vision
Resolve
Selflessness
The lives of millions were impacted for good by their leadership. Both died young, brought down by an assassin’s bullet. They believed that…
“The quality, not the longevity, of one’s life is what is important.”
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Most of us will not have the opportunity to impact millions by our leadership. However, all of us can impact a few: some a handful, some hundreds, and some, thousands. Whatever the size of your sphere of influence, if you want to make a difference, it will likely require some courage, vision, resolve and selflessness. Do that and you will leave footprints that endure long after you’re gone.
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Early in my career, I learned the embarrassing way that “me” is a word that should be seldom used in most contexts. While giving a presentation to a group of government engineers, I repeatedly referred to “me” instead of “we” as having done this or that or whatever. My leader, in a moment I still remember vividly, pulled me aside and said plainly and with a bit of anger: “This will go a lot better if you use ‘we’ instead of ‘me.’ ”
If you want to raise the level of your leadership in 2016, start by turning the M upside down. Leading is not about you, it’s about the organization and the people you have the privilege of leading. “We” instead of “me” is one of the consistent characteristics of Level 5 leaders as defined by Jim Collins.
Excerpt from the Introduction to 16 Stones
In his now-classic book Good to Great, Jim Collins identifies what he calls Level 5 leaders. They have the “personal humility” and “fierce resolve” needed to transform their companies from good to great. “Level 5 leaders,” he says, “are a study in duality: modest and willful, humble and fearless.” About one of his Level 5 examples—Darwin Smith of Kimberly-Clark— Collins says he “…carried no airs of self-importance…never cultivated hero status or executive celebrity status.”
Two years after Good to Great, in a 2003 Fortune magazine article, Collins named Smith as one of “The Ten Greatest CEOs of All Time.” Wow! Top ten of all time! What did all ten have in common according to Collins?
“If one thing defines these ten giants, it was their deep sense of connectedness to the organizations they ran. Unlike CEOs who see themselves principally as members of an executive elite—an increasingly mobile club whose members measure their pay and privileges against other CEOs…. Much depended on them, but it was never about them.”
Remember the phrase “it was never about them.” Adopting it is one of the most important steps anyone can take in trying to become an authentic and effective leader.
Is Monday your first day back in 2016? Get off to a great start toward Level 5—turn the M upside down!
[16 Stones can be ordered on this website (best price for print), or at Amazon for e-book format.]
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It is Christmas Eve. About 24 hours from now, the floor will be littered with wrapping paper and empty boxes. My three grandsons will be deep in a pile of Legos (getting help from Bindi—their 4-month old puppy), or trying to play a new game without reading the instructions (they are future men for sure). Later in the day will be the turkey and my wife’s world’s best dressing. Then it will a tryptophan-induced comma which will be “resting my eyes” when ridiculed by my daughters. Next year, we’ll do it all over again.
Among the carols, presents, starry night, manger scenes, and wise men, the words of the angel sometimes get lost:
Luke 2:8–11 (NIV84) — 8 And there were shepherds living out in the fields nearby, keeping watch over their flocks at night. 9 An angel of the Lord appeared to them, and the glory of the Lord shone around them, and they were terrified. 10 But the angel said to them, “Do not be afraid. I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people. 11 Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is Christ the Lord.
Those words—“a Savior has been born”—are the most important words of the whole Christmas story. “A Savior”—and I need one—so do you. Jesus is mine. I hope he’s yours too.
Merry Christmas!
Christmas is only 10 days away. I can hardly wait. Highlights will be a candlelight service on Christmas Eve; reading the story of the birth of Jesus on Christmas morning; watching my three buddies open their gifts and getting great hugs from them all; then, Christmas dinner. My wife, Dottie, makes the best dressing in the world. If that was all we had to eat—I’d be happy (well, maybe a little pumpkin pie thrown in).
Giving gifts is a big part of Christmas, but for authentic leaders it should be a big part of leading all year long. A leader can play Santa every day by giving the…
Gift of Appreciation
Philosopher William James once said that the need to be appreciated is at the core of the human personality. What are you doing to show those you lead that you really appreciate them?
Gift of Listening
“…listening is probably our greatest opportunity to give attention to others on a daily basis and convey how much we value them” (from The Servant by James C. Hunter). Don’t forget—authentic listening and just hearing are not the same thing.
Gift of Freedom
There isn’t much worse than being in bondage to a controlling boss—every decision, large and small, reviewed and approved with an “I know best” spirit. Give the gift of freedom. Quit being a boss and start being a leader!
Gift of Honesty
There are a lot of dimensions to honesty, but the greatest gift a leader can give is honesty about self. Be transparent, admit it when you are wrong, and don’t pretend you don’t have any weaknesses.
Gift of Patience
Anger, finger pointing, outbursts, revenge seeking, punishing and wounding have no place in any organization. The leader sets the tone. Do you have a spirit of fear and reticence in your organization? It’s probably your fault.
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My daughter, Elizabeth, is flying on Christmas Eve to join us for our family Christmas celebration. I am glad she is coming. Christmas without Elizabeth wouldn’t be Christmas. I am glad she is flying because I won’t be worrying about her arriving safely. Commercial air travel in the U.S. is 96X safer than driving (based on equal miles). By the way, it is 4500X safer than motorcycles, so if she is expecting a Harley for Christmas, she is going to be disappointed.
It hasn’t always been that way. In the early days of aviation, flying was the realm of risk-takers. There were no rules, no FAA, and no NTSB to investigate accidents. “Have Airplane—Can Fly” was the mantra whether the airplane was built by the Wright Brothers or home-made in the barn. The planes had wood frames, canvas skins, under-powered engines, few controls, and fewer instruments. It was a white-scarf-bravado business; parachutes were for cowards. Crashes—fatal crashes—were common. In the early ‘20s, 31 of 40 postal service pilots were killed in accidents. Thousands of other daring young men (and a few women) risked—and lost all—in those barn-storming days.
Cal Rodgers was one of those daring young men. In 1911, William Randolph Hearst put up a $50,000 prize for the first pilot who could fly coast-to-coast in 30 days or less. Cal recruited some financial backers, a ground/fuel crew who traveled by train, and took to the air from Sheepshead Bay, NY on September 17 in a Wright Flyer EX. Forty-nine days later, he landed in Long Beach and taxied his plane into the surf of the Pacific Ocean with the following score card:
Breakthrough and change always fly on the backs of risk takers. If Orville and Wibur hadn’t taken a risk in 1903, Elizabeth would be driving on Christmas Eve and I would be worrying.
Not everything new that comes along is dangerous, but everything new that comes along has something at risk: failure, reputation, finances, relationships, and so on. Is your organization—or life—a bit stale and bogged down? What have you risked lately? Not much? Maybe that’s the reason. Why don’t you put something out there in 2016 that’s a bit uncomfortable—maybe even a risk? Be a Cal Rodgers! Give me a reason to write about you.
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Only 31 days to go in 2015. It’s a busy time of year. There are parties and Christmas programs to attend; shopping, cooking and decorating to finish up; guest bedrooms to clean; maybe changing the oil and vacuuming the car before that frantic Christmas Eve trip to Grandma’s. Plus, there are still customers to please (especially in retail), sermons to prepare, etc., etc., etc.
No one needs a list of more things to do between now and January 1st. I’m going to give you one anyway. Why? Because you need to finish well in 2015 and these five things will help.
#1 Do That Thing You Have Been Putting Off For Months It’s that “call back” note on your desk…the garage to clean (me!)…a report to write…a visit to the doctor…you know what it is. Don’t let it continue to nag you in 2016.
#2 Spend Time With The Water Boy Every organization has a water boy. The water boy goes about his job in anonymity. She cleans the office at night or he opens up the church early on Sunday mornings. Take 15 minutes to sit down and talk. Learn about his hobby and her kids. Listen for that hidden message from the heart. Say “thank you.” It will be a great finish to the water boy’s year…and yours.
#3 Forgive Someone From the mega-best seller, Unbroken, by Laura Hillenbrand:
“The paradox of vengefulness is that it makes men dependent upon those who have harmed them, believing that their release from pain will come only when they make their tormentors suffer. In seeking the Bird’s death to free himself, Louie had chained himself, once again, to his tyrant. During the war, the Bird had been unwilling to let go of Louie; after the war, Louie was unable to let go of the Bird.”
When we don’t forgive, we become a victim twice. First, when we are hurt, and second, when we chain ourselves to the pain. Bitterness and a desire for revenge are heavier weights than the original hurt; carrying them will wear you out emotionally. It’s not easy, but 2016 will be a much better year if you let go.
#4 Escape For A Day For just one day—turn off your iPhone…don’t check email or Facebook…turn off the tv. Let your mind and emotions fully escape and rest. The world will still be there the next day.
#5 Be Thankful Starting today and every day through December 31, be thankful for one specific thing. Did you have a warm place to sleep? Did you see a Salvation Army bell ringer? Were the police on duty on Christmas day? A list of 31 things will be easy if you focus on what you have instead of what you don’t have. A good starting place is to thank God for the grace and mercy he offers to all of us in Jesus.
No matter how busy you are, you have time to do these five things. Start 2016 by finishing well in 2015. You’ll be glad you did.
© Copyright 2015 by Dick Wells, The Hard Lessons Company
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